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Head of Barilla pasta says ‘We won’t include gays in our ads’

“I would never make a spot with a homosexual family. Not out of a lack of respect but because I don’t see it like they do. (My idea of) family is a classic family where the woman has a fundamental role,” said Guido Barilla, president of Barilla Pasta.

Not only does he manage to insult gay families, but he gets a pretty good potshot in there at women too.

“We have a different concept with regard to the gay family. For us, the concept of the sacred family remains a fundamental value of the company”.

Don’t gay people eat pasta?

“That’s fine if they like our pasta and our communication, they can eat them. Otherwise they can eat another pasta. You can’t always please everyone”.

Time to buy a different brand of pasta.

“As a father of multiple children, I believe it’s very hard to raise kids in a same-sex couple”.

I hope they don’t get their family values from dad.

Welp, never buying Barilla again.

Yeah, I don’t need Barilla products in my house.

Dammit, there goes our default brand of noodles. Not giving them another cent of my money.

I have a list of products I won’t buy. Annnnnd they’re going on it. 

Enjoy the classic “non-apology!”

"With reference to remarks made yesterday to an Italian radio program, I apologize if my words have generated controversy or misunderstanding, or if they hurt someone’s sensitivity," Guido Barilla said in a statement. "In the interview I simply wished to underline the central role the woman plays within the family."  (source)

Ignoring the creeping, horrible sexism that’s inherent in that particular turn of phrase, another question immediately springs to mind:

Does this guy realize that women can be gay too?  Or does he think it’s just for dudes?  Are bachelors allowed to enjoy Barilla?  Widowers?  Or sans a woman to prepare and put it on a plate for him, is any male lost as to how to enjoy this delicious bounty?  Perhaps they are unfamiliar with how to dump dry pasta into a pot of boiling water and set a timer to remind themselves when to remove it.  

Without a woman, how can these mysteries be unraveled?

(via cluelessnu)


Iceland; I salute you.


Iceland; I salute you.

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i can’t believe moffat said john and sherlock wouldn’t work romantically because “they’re not wired that way” and then wrote an episode where a lesbian falls in love with a man

your irene wasn’t wired in that way but you still made her fall in love with a man didn’t you you vile sexist homophobic piece of absolute shit

(via feels-like-fire)

Participants rated their sexual orientation on a 10-point scale, ranging from gay to straight. Then they took a computer-administered test designed to measure their implicit sexual orientation. In the test, the participants were shown images and words indicative of hetero- and homosexuality (pictures of same-sex and straight couples, words like “homosexual” and “gay”) and were asked to sort them into the appropriate category, gay or straight, as quickly as possible. The computer measured their reaction times.

The twist was that before each word and image appeared, the word “me” or “other” was flashed on the screen for 35 milliseconds — long enough for participants to subliminally process the word but short enough that they could not consciously see it. The theory here, known as semantic association, is that when “me” precedes words or images that reflect your sexual orientation (for example, heterosexual images for a straight person), you will sort these images into the correct category faster than when “me” precedes words or images that are incongruent with your sexual orientation (for example, homosexual images for a straight person). This technique, adapted from similar tests used to assess attitudes like subconscious racial bias, reliably distinguishes between self-identified straight individuals and those who self-identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual.

Using this methodology we identified a subgroup of participants who, despite self-identifying as highly straight, indicated some level of same-sex attraction (that is, they associated “me” with gay-related words and pictures faster than they associated “me” with straight-related words and pictures). Over 20 percent of self-described highly straight individuals showed this discrepancy.

Notably, these “discrepant” individuals were also significantly more likely than other participants to favor anti-gay policies; to be willing to assign significantly harsher punishments to perpetrators of petty crimes if they were presumed to be homosexual; and to express greater implicit hostility toward gay subjects (also measured with the help of subliminal priming). Thus our research suggests that some who oppose homosexuality do tacitly harbor same-sex attraction.

New study indicates homophobia is often a result of repressed homosexual feelings, validating what Freud posited in his concept of “reaction formation,” in which we lash out against others’ expressions of what we loathe in ourselves.

The above is via explore-blog, and it’s a long and fancy way of saying that (at least according to this study) homophobia is often associated with repressed homosexual feelings. This work will be appearing in the next issue of Journal of Stuff Everyone Knows But Couldn’t Quite Prove Until Now.

(via jtotheizzoe)

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I’m really tired of being offended all the time

I’m tired of not being able to enjoy movies because I can see that every character is white

I’m tired of wincing with disdain during every other TV show because of all the misogyny

I’m tired of being the bad guy because I call people out when they say something incredibly racist, sexist, or homophobic

I’m tired of people looking at me like I’ve personally hurt them when I ask them not to use “gay” and “retarded” as pejoratives

I’m tired of hearing that it’s okay for white people to say the N-Word as long as they would “never say it for real,” because the fact is if you’re saying it at all, you’re saying it for real

I’m tired of needing to be ever-vigilant on the radio in case Taylor Swift comes on because the slut-shaming makes me so angry

I’m tired of the fact that advocating for equality makes you the wet blanket, because I can’t “just let people have a good time” if it’s at the expense of the oppressed

I’m tired of being told the things that I find repugnant are not as big a deal as I’m making them, and everyone could just get on with their lives if I just “lightened up”

I’m tired of being told that my serious medical condition is just me being “melodramatic” or “attention-seeking,” and that the cure is “being strong” and “getting over it”

I’m tired of people thinking poetry is a more reliable indicator of the state of my brain than the actual science behind it

I’m tired of people thinking that bigotry is just another alternative opinion, just as valid as any other opinion out there

I’m tired of people misunderstanding “I respect your right to an opinion” as “I respect your opinion,” because a lot of the time I don’t respect your opinion, and I respect you less for having an opinion I find reprehensible

I’m tired of people using religion as a crutch to further their own hatred, because it robs legitimately faithful people of credibility and because I want no part of any religion that actually advocates the things people use it to back up

I’m tired of people without religion trash-talk anyone who does have it, because they’re just adding fuel to the fire that they claim they’d rather not have any part of. 

I’m tired of people acting like the most horrible things in the world are inevitabilities, and the best we can do is to treat the symptoms, usually after the damage is done

I’m tired of people enforcing rules on others, then getting upset when someone tries to apply those same rules to them

I’m tired of watching as the human race proves time and time again that we can’t be trusted to provide a world where the majority of our members are not living in subjugation

I wish people would stop doing these things, because I’m really tired of being offended all the time. It’s exhausting.

(via fourminustwoeyes)


men don’t get to decide what is misogynistic

straight people don’t get to decide what is homophobic

cis people don’t get to decide what is transphobic

white people don’t get to decide what is racist

people in positions of power

don’t get to decide what is considered oppression

that’s how we move backwards, not forwards

(via affectingly)


Robert, this is for you - 25 (BCS)

A mutual friend of ours threw a big party for her 30th birthday, tons of people were there and it was a lot of fun. Somewhere along the line you and I ended up on the balcony for some fresh air at the same time. We started chatting; we talked about sports, books, tv — discovered we both are about to start our masters degrees and spent some time debating the pro’s and con’s of the educational system. We talked about hanging out sometime, and you wanted to meet my girlfriend.

I understand how upsetting it was for you when I blinked mildly in surprise and said I was here with my husband. I know it was a shock to your system, if your face had turned any paler I might have called 911. You made a good recovery though - that hurried mutter of “I’m not like that” was very polite and you only knocked over two drinks and one vase in your hurry to rush to anywhere other than near me. I can’t blame you — I forgot how delicate you straight boys are. So I wanted to give you a few helpful hints about where you went wrong last night.

1) As a general rule we don’t walk around with big signs around our neck proclaiming our sexuality. No scarlet letters, no scent of hellfire and brimstone… sorry about that.

2) We do not generally assume that everyone within 5 feet of us must also be homosexual — it was nice of you to immediately reassure me that you are hetero, but it was really unnecessary.

3) Homosexuality is not infectious. While I am sure you meant no disrespect with your hasty departure; in the future you can rest assured that taking a few extra seconds in your mad dash for safety will not result in you being turned gay. It will however keep you from destroying expensive vases and knocking over senior citizens.

4) This next one may come as a surprise; but you are not, in fact, irresistible. The fact that you have a dick does not instantly turn me into a bundle of uncontrolled lust. Contrary to popular opinion, being in the same room with a straight man does not cause a gay man to instantly lose all common sense and basic common courtesy. Though I am not so sure about the reverse.

5) Homosexuals in general get a little irked when people treat us like some sort of leper. Rushing to another mutual friend of ours and advising him of my sexuality, so he could be “forewarned” was really uncalled for.

6) Upon being told (by said mutual friend) to stop being an idiot and that you were not my type anyway… it generally confuses the issue when you then proceed to become upset that I DON’T find you attractive. Three seconds ago you were running through a crowd of people with your hands cupped protectively over your junk as if I might attack you at any moment with a blowjob. See hint number 4.

7) We homosexuals have an odd sense of humor — I can’t help that. Something about watching you freak out as if all the demons of hell were after you just struck me as vastly amusing.

8) While being pissed at me for dissolving into uncontrollable laughter might be understandable… gathering a couple guys together to “teach the fag a lesson” is not.

9) You might also want to drink a little less and be a little more careful about the guys you approach for your little proto-hate-mob.

10) Assuming the two tall muscle-bound bruisers must be uber-hetero and just as appalled by my presence as you was your first mistake. It was an understandable one though. How were you to know that pflag tshirt the first guy was wearing wasn’t a sports team? Also the rainbow ring the second guy was wearing could have meant anything I am sure.

11) In retrospect I suppose that upon hearing your not very subtle hate-talk and seeing who you were heading for; I could have said something instead of just laughing harder. I apologize for that. I should have just introduced you to my husband instead of letting you walk up to him and ask him if he wanted to help you teach “that fag over there” a lesson. I hope that broken nose heals up cleanly.

(via mjolnirmaleficarum)


My original intent for this article was to write a thoughtful analysis of the craziness that was Chick-Fil-A appreciation day. But nope. You will get none of that from me. Because I am frustrated, very frustrated, with how this all went down.

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